The hardest thing to accept about self growth is truth. Confronting the areas of your life where you are weak weather spiritually, mentally, and even physically. It is easy to lie to ourselves and make excuses, because it’s hard to confront our own wrongdoings. I’ve done this many times myself and only beginning to scratch the surface of my own personal development. For me it’s about letting go of pride, being patient, and accepting truth even when it’s hard, even when I’ve rejected it before; There remains a conviction within my mind, my heart that knows that I was wrong and need to get over myself and accept the truth.
Here’s an example: I have a goal to become a personal trainer, this is a fact I’ve laid down for myself, a passion and a goal. In order to be the best, certified, and honest personal trainer I can be, there are certain things I must do. One is to study my curriculum; Second is to follow a workout regiment and try to eat a little more healthy. I know these are things I must do for my own self growth and to achieve my goal. The truth is I don’t always study when I have to, I don’t always follow my workout regiment when I have to, and I don’t always eat healthy; This stunts my growth and I know this. If someone comes to tell me “Ibra why aren’t you studying when you should be?” The prideful side will want to make excuses and feel offended; But here’s thing, just because I feel something doesn’t mean I have to act on it. Some of us react badly when confronted with truth. Rather I should hold my tongue, think for a second and realize that “yes, you’re right I am not studying and I know I should be, I’m going to try to work on that and do better, thank you for confronting me and helping my growth.”
I remember a boss I worked for, whose employee retention rate was terrible. On my interview I was told “A lot of people quit working here because they just can’t handle it, I have a certain way of training, this place has a bad reputation because past employees, and other locations make up lies, but the truth is they can’t handle it.” As I continued to work there, I began to see for my own eyes that wasn’t the case; The truth of the matter was, he was terrible at communication with his employees, he was terrible at leadership and ownership, he placed blame on his employee and never accepted accountability, he came in angry almost every time, he cursed when something went wrong, he choose certain people to talk to and others he never even addressed, he promoted based on likeness instead of experience; So a lot of people felt like it wasn’t a fair work environment and the retention rate was thus horrible. The work ethic was terrible all around. Had he taken a moment to listen to his employees, examine what the root of the problem was and even just said once “hey guys I know I messed up, but here’s how we’re gonna make it better.” had he accepted the truth, the work environment would have been changed and the retention rate would have been much better.
In summation, in order to grow as a person; We have to be willing to accept what is truthful when presented with it. Otherwise, the road just becomes harder to travel.